It is said that Romans began each year by making promises to the god Janus, for whom the month January is named. To this day, we still view the new year as an opportunity for a fresh start. Our resolutions give us the opportunity to give up what no longer serves us and to bring in new positive changes.
A resolution that most of us do not think to put on our list is to learn how to experience self-love. This is such an important resolution to consider because when done, it can positively affect many areas of our lives.
The following is a list of five ways we can love ourselves more:
Somewhere along the way many of us learned that loving ourselves was wrong. Those that loved themselves were considered arrogant and selfish. Instead of learning to love and accept ourselves as we are, many of us learned how to find fault with and criticize ourselves. The truth is that accepting and loving oneself actually opens the door to give and receive more love from others. Not only does accepting yourself feel much better than being self critical, it also shows others that it is possible and gives them permission to accept themselves too. Allow yourself to recognize and to honor all of the unique qualities that make you who you are.
Listen to your inner compass.
When life gets overwhelming or hectic it can be easy to feel lost and overwhelmed. The good news is we all have an inner compass that is our intuition. This intuition can help us with big life decisions or with something as simple as deciding which way to turn when we are driving and feel lost. Giving ourselves just 15-30 minutes a day meditating can help us reconnect with our intuition. Other easy ways to build a strong intuition are spending time in nature or walking. Giving yourself a break from the busyness of life and quiet time allows for your inner knowing to come through and to be heard.
Forgive and let go of resentment.
Are you holding onto resentment toward yourself or someone else? If so, now is a good time to consider releasing it. According to self-help author Louise Hay, the two mental patterns that contribute to disease are fear and anger. She says, “Anger can show up as impatience, irritation, frustration, criticism, resentment, jealousy or bitterness. These are all thoughts that poison the body. When we release this burden, all the organs in our body begin to function properly.” It can help to realize that forgiveness does not mean that we condone the actions of the person we are forgiving but that we are no longer allowing the situation to consume our thoughts. Forgiveness and releasing resentment can free up energetic space for new positive experiences in our life.
Ask for what you want and need.
Around the time we were taught that it is wrong to love ourselves, many were also taught that it is wrong to express our wants and needs. Instead, we expect the people around us to somehow guess or already know what it is we want. When this doesn’t happen, anger and resentment can build and arguments can occur. Learning to communicate our needs in a healthy way gives the people around us the opportunity to respond—and this can lead to more peaceful relationships.
Live with gratitude.
Do you want to experience more wellness and optimism in your life? Learn to appreciate yourself and the good things in life. According to a summary of findings of a scientific study led by psychologists Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough, “In an experimental comparison, those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events.” This will come as no surprise to those who study the law of attraction, which teaches that what we focus on is what we attract into our lives. Jennifer Lambright combines her skills as an intuitive coach, advanced ThetaHealing instructor and Reiki Master to help people release the blocks that keep them from experiencing the happiness and fulfillment they desire.
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